Parental expressions of Love

Love that was and is being expressed through your, Parents, Grand parents, Spouse, Siblings, Family & friends.
The most important single ingredient in raising happy and successful children is the amount of love they receive from their parents. Children need love like flowers need sunshine and rain.
You can never give a child too much love. The continuous flow of love and approval from a parent to a child is the child’s psychological lifeline to emotional and physical health. Almost all problems with children stem back to the child’s perception of not being fully loved and accepted by his or her parents.
Lack of love whether it’s real or imagined by the child can have serious consequences.
It can lead to physical, mental and emotional damage that can have long-term if not permanent negative consequences on the entire life of the child. In fact most child psychologists and therapists agree that love deprivation is the most serious problem a child can suffer during his or her formative years.
The starting point of raising happy and successful children is to give them a continuous unbroken flow of unconditional love and acceptance. A parent needs to always make it clear to his or her child that nothing the child does could ever cause him or her to love the child less than 100 percent.
Children reinvent your world for you.
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
“We do not remember days, we remember moments. The richness of life lies in memories we need to forget, and the ones we need to remember.
My goal is to refresh the future not to rehash the past,
“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.”
( Dobson ) " Stop trying to perfect your children, but keep trying to perfect your relationship with them."

My time as a parent, is not just to be a guide for the future, but a friend for rough times in life to come.
To be an example to show them how to be that good parent for their future experiences of life.
Parents exist to teach the child, but also they must learn what the child has to teach them, and the child has a very great deal to teach them.
"The best inheritance a parent can give his children is a few minutes of his time each day."
There is no friendship, no love, like the love of the parent for their child."

Expressions of Love

expressions of love

Another form of love is assured love.( It is also perfect love because it allows you to act from love and not fear). All fear based actions is the result of attachment to outcome and not trusting the divine. Perfect love is fearless.( We do not have to love because love is already present. We just have to realize it and allow it to be expressed through us).( Assured love is only possible when you love God more than any other). You trust the universe completely. Loving God is loving yourself with the best love.

Love without friendship is like a shadow without the sun
Love is a given, hatred is acquired.

When you love unmistakably , you are simply following your heart while having detachment from results). Conditions are attachment to results. You may desire to have things go a certain way with someone or something. But when you unconditionally love and accept what is, even if it does not happen the way you intend it to happen, then you create the conditions by which the essence of (what you truly desire can happen because it is no longer a requirement for it to happen, but it is free to spring forth.)

Christian love is giving to others those things that you would want them to give you if you were in their situation -- and it's doing so even if they can't pay you back. In fact, it's doing so especially if they can't pay you back! Christian love is respect for others. It's mercy. It's charity.

The suffering and problems that we confront in our lives on a personal and even global level actually come down to the condition of the heart.
God is concerned with our hearts--He doesn't care about the size of our churches or the furnishings or the depth of learning, or the quality of the music. It's the condition of our hearts He's concerned with. We get off focus as human beings and look at all these material things, that will not make one bit of difference insofar as our spiritual well-being, or a bit of difference in our spiritual lives or in the lives of others or in winning others to Christ. THAT is what we are supposed to be doing!!
We should always keep helpful things close to our hearts. Keeping the Word of God fresh in us is especially important. This is good for all the aforementioned, but especailly for our spiritual well-being.
God wants us to learn, but He wants us to APPLY what we learn to our lives daily. He doesn't care how many Scriptures we can quote or how many books we read.
God is concerned with what we DO with what we LEARN and how our lives line up WITH the Word.
God doesn't care what kind of building we're in, or where it is, or how it is furnished--He just wants us all to line up with the Word and live accordingly.

Our own choice's

One of the ways God made man unique in creation was to give him moral freedom; God made man a free moral agent. As a result, you can make certain self-determining decisions and actions. Under sin, you had no freedom to be righteous if you chose because sin had enslaved you, but now in Christ you are free to obey God if you choose.
Finally, we all must make choices. We make right ones and wrong ones, but make them we must. To not make a choice on a matter is in itself a choice. Fear of error in a choice is a possibility. A strong desire to do right coupled with biblical precepts help in our decisions. The power of choice is given to us and is God’s merit of confidence in His creation.
Choose to love rather than hate
Choose to smile rather than frown
Choose to build rather than destroy
Choose to persevere rather than quit
Choose to praise rather than gossip
Choose to heal rather than wound
Choose to give rather than grasp
Choose to act rather than delay
Choose to forgive rather than curse
Choose to pray rather than despair.

Our path through the heart

Our path is basically the path of the heart and not the path of the mind. This does not mean that we are criticising the path of the mind. Far from it. We just feel that the path of the heart leads us faster towards our goal. Suppose I want to go to a place 500 miles away. I can reach my destination either by walking or by flying.
Undoubtedly, I shall reach my destination considerably faster if I fly in a jet plane. Similarly, if we use the aspiring heart and not the doubting mind, we shall reach our goal much faster. The heart is all love. The mind is quite often all confusion. When we say the heart, we mean the spiritual heart, which is flooded with divine love.
The heart is strikingly significant because inside it is the living presence of the soul. True, the consciousness of the soul permeates the entire body, but the actual location of the soul is inside the heart. The soul has everything: Peace, Light and Bliss in infinite measure. We get these divine qualities inside the heart directly from the soul. And from the heart, we can bring them to the mind, to the vital and to the physical proper.
God is extremely simple. It is we who think of Him as someone complicated. God speaks the simplest language, only we don't understand Him. We are all deaf. We have been deaf for millennia. Poor God, He has been talking constantly, tirelessly, but we do not have time to listen to Him.
Our path is the path of simplicity. A child is simple; he loves his mother. He does not have to love anybody else: his mother is his whole world. He devotes himself to his mother. If his mother asks him to do something, he listens to his mother. A child is so simple that he tries to do everything to please his mother; and in pleasing his mother, he is doing the right thing and reaching his highest goal.
In the ordinary life, if someone loves another individual, then he spends most of his time with that particular person. He devotes his precious time to that person. If it is real human love-not divine love, but human love-then he sometimes surrenders to the other's whims even if they are absurd. He surrenders because the two of them have formed an inner and outer bond on the strength of their love. So if one loves another person, then one is ready even to sacrifice one's precious wisdom.
In the spiritual life it is totally different. Divine love never binds us. On the contrary, it expands us and liberates us. When we see and feel that we are being liberated, we feel inwardly a divine obligation to do something for our Inner Pilot. How can we remain aloof from the One who has given us everything, who has brought us the message of divine Love and Compassion? Will it be possible for us not to offer Him something in return? If we remain in the outer life, we only try to grab and possess everything, even what belongs to others. But if we live in the soul, we try to constantly give all that we have and all that we are to the Inner Pilot. Divine love means self giving.

Why do we hold grudges

Why do we hold grudges and become resentful and unforgiving?
The people most likely to hurt us are those closest to us — our spouses,children, friends, siblings and parents. When we're hurt by someone we love and trust — whether it's a lie, betrayal, rejection, abuse or insult — it can be extremely difficult to overcome. And even minor offenses can turn into huge conflicts.
When you experience hurt or harm from someone's actions or words, whether this is intended or not, you may begin experiencing negative feelings such as anger, confusion or sadness, especially when it's someone close to you. These feelings may start out small. But if you don't deal with them quickly, they can grow bigger and more powerful. They may even begin to crowd out positive feelings. Grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility take root when you dwell on hurtful events or situations, replaying them in your mind many times.
Soon, you may find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. You may feel trapped and may not see a way out. It's very hard to let go of grudges at this point and instead you may remain resentful and unforgiving.

The understanding that reconciliation

The understanding that reconciliation heals memory is crucial for the achievement of true peace between peoples. We must rise above stereotypical patterns of thought, strip away prejudice and combat ideologization, tragic hostility and lamentable co-existence. A genuine unity must blossom where simple co-existence once reigned. Hostility must yield to redeeming mutual goodwill and kindness. To achieve this end, we must recognize one another's innate dignity as human beings. Our mission must be first and foremost to respect, heal and liberate human beings. An individual must be allowed to develop as a person. But our success depends upon our ability to break down formulaic patterns of thought – never an easy task.

Apology
Because of the injustice involved in putting pressure on a victim to forgive, a therapist should, whenever possible, begin enabling the healing process at the other end of the conflictual interaction by opening space for the perpetrator to extend a genuine apology. This can be difficult for a number of reasons. Offenders often feel too ashamed or guilty to even participate in therapy. They may be unable or unwilling to stop offending. They may have little or no awareness of the harm they have done. They may be so preoccupied with the good intentions that they fail to recognise the bad effects c their actions. They may be too afraid of humiliation and/or punishment if they admit to their mistakes. Or they may fear the costs of restorative action. Individual work with the offender may be necessary to enable them to recognise how they might be blocking possibilities for forgiveness and reconciliation. A series of skilful, reflexive questions from a therapist can often open space for an offender to recognise the constructive initiatives they can take toward, possible reconciliation by apologising and to feel good about themselves in making such a contribution. What contributes to a genuine apology is a clear recognition of the harm done .and of the injustice involved, an acknowledgement of the losses and painful experiences of the victim, an expression of deep regret and remorse, and an honest willingness to take restorative action. The absence of any one of these elements can constitute a barrier to the victim’s ability to forgive.

Then what is a pure heart?

Then what is a pure heart? – Martin Luther
Then what is a pure heart? In what does it consist? The answer can be given quickly, and you do not have to climb up to heaven or run to a monastery for it and establish it with your own ideas. You should be on your guard against any ideas that you call your own, as if they were just so much mud and filth. And you should realize that when a monk in the monastery is sitting in deepest contemplation, excluding the world from his heart altogether, and thinking about the Lord God the way he himself paints and imagines Him, he is actually sitting—if you will pardon the expression—in the dung, not up to his knees but up to his ears. For he is proceeding on his own ideas without the Word of God; and that is sheer deception and delusion, as Scripture testifies everywhere.
What is meant by a “pure heart” is this: one that is watching and pondering what God says and replacing its own ideas with the Word of God. This alone is pure before God, yes, purity itself, which purifies everything that it includes and touches. Therefore, though a common laborer, a shoemaker, or a blacksmith may be dirty and sooty or may smell because he is covered with dirt and pitch, still he may sit at home and think: “My God has made me a man. He has given me my house, wife, and child and has commanded me to love them and to support them with my work.” Note that he is pondering the Word of God in his heart; and though he stinks outwardly, inwardly he is pure incense before God. But if he attains the highest purity so that he also takes hold of the Gospel and believes in Christ—without this, that purity is impossible—then he is pure completely, inwardly in his heart toward God and outwardly toward everything under him on earth.