( analogy )
Two Good friends were hiking together up a mountain side.
During this journey they were having a conversation.
As the discussion continued, sure there were disagreements!
Even though there were disagreements and were not able to see eye to eye,
they were still friends.
Both were professional hikers.
But they had different ways to tie knots, they still helped and respected each other.
They had a common goal and that was to reach the top of the mountain.
They did not completely understand each other with their own thoughts,
they still needed one another.
No matter how either one understood their training, their eyes were on the same goal.
By looking back, they had the same instructor.
They understood nutrition, they both had their own protein.
Each other knew what their own bodies needed.
And just like in every class of students their instructional videos were the same.
Every individual has their own technique on how to input and
access the information from their internal hard drive.
Here is the whole root of the analogy.
Along any path you start your walk with friends,
you will have your own way to step over holes, rocks and trees.
By staying close and next to the ones you started your journey with, if one would trip or fall you would be there to help.
They were not there to help push the other over the cliff, but to help get to the same goal together.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Sunday, February 7, 2010
How To Find Inner Peace
Your level of peace is directly related to your level of trust in God. The more you trust God, the more peace you will experience. The less you trust God, the less peace you will experience. If you choose to completely trust God, then stress will not be a part of your experience. If you experience any level of stress, it is because you have chosen not to fully trust God.
Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.
A mind at peace, is a mind centered and not focused on harming others, and is stronger than any physical or mental force in the universe.
What is peace of mind? It is a state of inner calmness and tranquility, together with a sense of freedom, when thoughts and worries cease, and there is no stress, strain or fear. If we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to transform our mind.
When things go wrong in our life and we encounter difficult situations we tend to regard the situation itself as the problem. But in reality whatever problems we experience comes from the mind. If we were to respond to difficulties with a positive or peaceful mind they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for growth and development. Problems arise only if we respond to situations with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to be open for help and to transform our mind. Sufferings, problems, worries, unhappiness, and pain all exist within our mind; they are all unpleasant feelings, which are part of the mind. Through prayer, controlling and purifying our mind we can stop them once and for all.
There are and there will be people who live in peace and harmony. Therefore,
they can offer freedom to other human beings who internally have decided to live life with problems of this life as we know.
Often these free-spirit filled people are part of a minority group that has experienced severe pressure to turn to a higher source.
The results of a intense conflict between being spiritual or conforming to societies torments and problems of this world. They finally can surrender to being totally true to themselves and to the fundamentals of being lead by God.
By turning to the higher source of real strength and comfort, life will then feel the freedom and peace our lives were originally created to live in.
Your level of peace is directly related to your level of trust in God. The more you trust God, the more peace you will experience. in your life.
Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.
A mind at peace, is a mind centered and not focused on harming others, and is stronger than any physical or mental force in the universe.
What is peace of mind? It is a state of inner calmness and tranquility, together with a sense of freedom, when thoughts and worries cease, and there is no stress, strain or fear. If we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to transform our mind.
When things go wrong in our life and we encounter difficult situations we tend to regard the situation itself as the problem. But in reality whatever problems we experience comes from the mind. If we were to respond to difficulties with a positive or peaceful mind they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for growth and development. Problems arise only if we respond to situations with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to transform our life and be free from problems we must learn to be open for help and to transform our mind. Sufferings, problems, worries, unhappiness, and pain all exist within our mind; they are all unpleasant feelings, which are part of the mind. Through prayer, controlling and purifying our mind we can stop them once and for all.
There are and there will be people who live in peace and harmony. Therefore,
they can offer freedom to other human beings who internally have decided to live life with problems of this life as we know.
Often these free-spirit filled people are part of a minority group that has experienced severe pressure to turn to a higher source.
The results of a intense conflict between being spiritual or conforming to societies torments and problems of this world. They finally can surrender to being totally true to themselves and to the fundamentals of being lead by God.
By turning to the higher source of real strength and comfort, life will then feel the freedom and peace our lives were originally created to live in.
Your level of peace is directly related to your level of trust in God. The more you trust God, the more peace you will experience. in your life.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
True Happiness
If true happiness could be achieved as the end result of possessing anything you want, achieving a dream, or buying something you like, then the contentment of a person would often be subject to something else. The basic key for finding happiness is to finally understand that it is not the result but a choice. The definition of happiness could also be seen when a person feels joyful, satisfied or pleased. Or he may simply be displaying signs of enjoying life. A basic and significant truth to remember is that another way to define happiness is merely the absence of an opposite emotion such as sadness, pain, misery or it can be something else.
We cannot be truly happy if we keep on “wanting” or “desiring” more than what we have. Contentedness is the gateway to happiness. There is nothing wrong with having wants, just as long as these things provide a positive motivating force. It is okay as long as we find happiness and fulfillment in the process of going after our wants. Irrational wants can limit our happiness if we make these the focus of our lives; hence, these only become sources of frustration.
Happiness is a personal decision. We are in charge with our own lives. So if we truly want to be happy. "We always have enough to be happy if we are enjoying what we do have -- and not worrying about what we don't have."
If these are examples of what constitutes happiness, then why are there still so many unhappy people walking the face of the earth? Each person has their own definition of happiness and different components they believe contribute to a fulfilling life. And even though many people believe that money can buy happiness, the truth is, it cannot.
True happiness is said to be both an inner glow and an outer radiation that you can feel together with an total satisfaction.
Another definition will give you the meaning of happiness as an emotional feeling which parallels with pleasure, joy, and contentment. But then these things are just temporary.
You have to dig deeper into the real meaning of happiness - a happiness that is True and never ending.
All the happiness you could ever want to is already within you and costs nothing. By digging through the noise and minutia of everyday life, you will see a tiny glimpse of the spiritual God-source from which all happiness emanates- the very joy of being.
Happiness is a choice to be made in advance or no later than the present
moment. Negativity, once experienced can never be reversed, but if you
are not careful, it can be lived again and again.
Hard times allow us to really dive deep into ourselves and figure out
who we truly are and what we want out of life. They make us desire
happiness more than we ever have and they can lead you to discovering
your passions and what truly makes you happy.
Focusing on the things that brings happiness to daily living in a
worthwhile exercise. It is easy to focus on the negative,
especially when there are reminders everywhere.
But choosing to seek ways to incorporate happy thoughts can make a tremendous difference in daily living.
And to finalize it, you cannot find true peace and happiness, without the Love of God, and peace within your heart. And without family and friends to be able to express your love, is lonely and worthless.
Love, in the truest sense of the word, is an action verb. We can say "I love you" and truly feel like we mean it, but the proof of our love is in our actions.
We cannot be truly happy if we keep on “wanting” or “desiring” more than what we have. Contentedness is the gateway to happiness. There is nothing wrong with having wants, just as long as these things provide a positive motivating force. It is okay as long as we find happiness and fulfillment in the process of going after our wants. Irrational wants can limit our happiness if we make these the focus of our lives; hence, these only become sources of frustration.
Happiness is a personal decision. We are in charge with our own lives. So if we truly want to be happy. "We always have enough to be happy if we are enjoying what we do have -- and not worrying about what we don't have."
If these are examples of what constitutes happiness, then why are there still so many unhappy people walking the face of the earth? Each person has their own definition of happiness and different components they believe contribute to a fulfilling life. And even though many people believe that money can buy happiness, the truth is, it cannot.
True happiness is said to be both an inner glow and an outer radiation that you can feel together with an total satisfaction.
Another definition will give you the meaning of happiness as an emotional feeling which parallels with pleasure, joy, and contentment. But then these things are just temporary.
You have to dig deeper into the real meaning of happiness - a happiness that is True and never ending.
All the happiness you could ever want to is already within you and costs nothing. By digging through the noise and minutia of everyday life, you will see a tiny glimpse of the spiritual God-source from which all happiness emanates- the very joy of being.
Happiness is a choice to be made in advance or no later than the present
moment. Negativity, once experienced can never be reversed, but if you
are not careful, it can be lived again and again.
Hard times allow us to really dive deep into ourselves and figure out
who we truly are and what we want out of life. They make us desire
happiness more than we ever have and they can lead you to discovering
your passions and what truly makes you happy.
Focusing on the things that brings happiness to daily living in a
worthwhile exercise. It is easy to focus on the negative,
especially when there are reminders everywhere.
But choosing to seek ways to incorporate happy thoughts can make a tremendous difference in daily living.
And to finalize it, you cannot find true peace and happiness, without the Love of God, and peace within your heart. And without family and friends to be able to express your love, is lonely and worthless.
Love, in the truest sense of the word, is an action verb. We can say "I love you" and truly feel like we mean it, but the proof of our love is in our actions.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
( Leaders - Guides - Overseers )
A simple definition of leadership is that leadership is the art of motivating a group of people to act towards achieving a common goal.
No matter who you are, there will be a case of submission to someone sometime in your life.
Anywhere there is a case for unity, there will be need for leadership & order.
In all instances of individuals, who are trying to come to a unity or common
ground, that is when a leader might be used to negotiate the differences.
Whether it be in marriage, education, spiritual or financial, anyone with a common goal there must be order.
As a leader you should always start with where people are before you try to take them to where you want them to go.
Leadership is not so much about technique and methods as it is about opening the heart. Leadership is about inspiration—of oneself and of others. Great leadership is about human experiences, not processes. Leadership is not a formula or a program, it is a human activity that comes from the heart and considers the hearts of others. It is an attitude, not a routine."
Leaders are not born. They are created through rigorous training and development. They are formed just like anything else. . . through hard work and God assistance. That's the price they have to pay to achieve that goal or goals in their calling.
Leaders instill in their people a hope for success and a belief in themselves. Positive leaders assist people to accomplish their goals.
The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been."
Leaders are ones who guides a specific group of people to move in a God-given direction."
Everyone faces challenges and problems. Success lies in dealing with them promptly and thoroughly.
"Men and Women make history and not the other way around. In periods where there is no leadership, society stands still. Progress occurs when courageous, skillful leaders seize the opportunity to change things for the better."
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which have been defeated while trying to succeed.
No group of people is stronger than the quality of its leadership, or ever extends its constituency far beyond the degree to which its leadership is representative.
In the past century a leader was a boss.. Today’s leaders must be partners with their people, they no longer can lead solely based on positional power.
"A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don't necessarily want to go but ought to be."
Leaders don't create followers, they create more leaders.
No matter who you are, there will be a case of submission to someone sometime in your life.
Anywhere there is a case for unity, there will be need for leadership & order.
In all instances of individuals, who are trying to come to a unity or common
ground, that is when a leader might be used to negotiate the differences.
Whether it be in marriage, education, spiritual or financial, anyone with a common goal there must be order.
As a leader you should always start with where people are before you try to take them to where you want them to go.
Leadership is not so much about technique and methods as it is about opening the heart. Leadership is about inspiration—of oneself and of others. Great leadership is about human experiences, not processes. Leadership is not a formula or a program, it is a human activity that comes from the heart and considers the hearts of others. It is an attitude, not a routine."
Leaders are not born. They are created through rigorous training and development. They are formed just like anything else. . . through hard work and God assistance. That's the price they have to pay to achieve that goal or goals in their calling.
Leaders instill in their people a hope for success and a belief in themselves. Positive leaders assist people to accomplish their goals.
The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been."
Leaders are ones who guides a specific group of people to move in a God-given direction."
Everyone faces challenges and problems. Success lies in dealing with them promptly and thoroughly.
"Men and Women make history and not the other way around. In periods where there is no leadership, society stands still. Progress occurs when courageous, skillful leaders seize the opportunity to change things for the better."
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which have been defeated while trying to succeed.
No group of people is stronger than the quality of its leadership, or ever extends its constituency far beyond the degree to which its leadership is representative.
In the past century a leader was a boss.. Today’s leaders must be partners with their people, they no longer can lead solely based on positional power.
"A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don't necessarily want to go but ought to be."
Leaders don't create followers, they create more leaders.
Monday, January 25, 2010
DUTY
" DUTY " -, an action or task required by a person's position or occupation;
How can you come to know yourself? Never by thinking, always by doing.
Try to do your duty, and you'll now right away what you amount to. And what
is your duty? Whatever the day calls for."
I strongly believe that nothing is more spiritual than living at our highest potential while serving others. I believe that the more closely aligned we are in the spirit of God” the more fully we will give ourselves in service to the world. As such, my “spiritual path” is the path that leads me to a more complete manifestation of my unique compassionate duties.
It is better to perform one's own duties imperfectly than to master the duties of another. By fulfilling the obligations he is born with, a person never comes to grief.
The whole duty of man is embraced in the two principles of abstinence and patience: temperance in prosperity, and patient courage in adversity
Make it a point to do something every day that you don't want to do. This is the golden rule for acquiring the habit of doing your duty you need to do without resistance.
How can you come to know yourself? Never by thinking, always by doing.
Try to do your duty, and you'll now right away what you amount to. And what
is your duty? Whatever the day calls for."
I strongly believe that nothing is more spiritual than living at our highest potential while serving others. I believe that the more closely aligned we are in the spirit of God” the more fully we will give ourselves in service to the world. As such, my “spiritual path” is the path that leads me to a more complete manifestation of my unique compassionate duties.
It is better to perform one's own duties imperfectly than to master the duties of another. By fulfilling the obligations he is born with, a person never comes to grief.
The whole duty of man is embraced in the two principles of abstinence and patience: temperance in prosperity, and patient courage in adversity
Make it a point to do something every day that you don't want to do. This is the golden rule for acquiring the habit of doing your duty you need to do without resistance.
Responsibilities
Responsibilities- a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible
Responsibility is to be given, received, earned.
The duty and desire of a Father & Husband, is to provide the protection and leadership his family. And the necessity to fulfill the needs and happiness of the family, will bring the peace of mind that will bring the feeling of completeness and success in a man's mind.
Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility.
He must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but he can change his mind."
Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility
When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.
Responsibility is to be given, received, earned.
The duty and desire of a Father & Husband, is to provide the protection and leadership his family. And the necessity to fulfill the needs and happiness of the family, will bring the peace of mind that will bring the feeling of completeness and success in a man's mind.
Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility.
He must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but he can change his mind."
Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility
When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
You don't have to be disagreeable when you disagree
When a friend makes a remark about the weather that you disagree with, it's easy to dismiss such a trivial matter without getting upset. However, if the subject changes to politics, religion, or other sensitive subjects, a simple misunderstanding can become a disagreement, which then leads to a quarrel, which, in turn, could end in bitterness and a breakup.
Friendships are too important to break up over silly squabbles. What's the point of 'winning' an argument if it results in losing a friend? To prevent needless breakups, arm yourself with a basic understanding of human nature and how we communicate. You may find one or more of the following points helpful on your journey to these goals.
Most disagreements are caused by misunderstandings. That is, you disagree with someone not because you have a different opinion, but because you misunderstand the opinion of your friend. The first thing to keep in mind is that misunderstandings are unavoidable. The bad news is misunderstandings can become quarrels. The good news is that with awareness, you can change misunderstandings to understanding and acceptance, which will deepen your friendships.
Why is misunderstanding inevitable? Well, it's has to do with the nature of casual communication. Let's say I'm among a circle of friends and wish to share an idea, and it's my turn to speak. The idea is completely clear in my mind, but to explain it in great detail is somewhat laborious. Besides, if my explanation is too long-winded, I'm apt to be cut off by a friend who is eager to jump into the discussion. So, to make my task less laborious and reduce the likelihood of being cut off in mid-sentence, what do I do? I abbreviate, shorten, and clip my ideas to get them out faster and easier. However, by reducing the details of my point, I unwittingly introduce vagueness and ambiguity. This lack of clarity leads to confusion and misunderstanding.
Even after verifying and clarifying, you may still disagree with your friend. Such disagreements are unavoidable because of our differences. As long as we remember that it is our differences that provide learning experiences and variety to life, we will be able to disagree without becoming disagreeable. Learn to become tolerant. Tolerance is expansive. It is about growth and enjoyment.
If you are married, your most important friend is your spouse. Why not repeat to your spouse the words of 'Dr. Love' (Leo Buscaglia, 1924 ~ 1998), "A single rose can be my garden. a single friend, my world." Then add, "YOU are my friend and my world." And prove it by mastering the art of compassionate communication: the art of listening, learning, and being sensitive and supportive. Eliminate quarrels at home. But should one occur when your guard is down, use it to deepen your relationship by quickly apologizing and making up.
This is something I need and hope to be able to fulfill into my life daily.
Friendships are too important to break up over silly squabbles. What's the point of 'winning' an argument if it results in losing a friend? To prevent needless breakups, arm yourself with a basic understanding of human nature and how we communicate. You may find one or more of the following points helpful on your journey to these goals.
Most disagreements are caused by misunderstandings. That is, you disagree with someone not because you have a different opinion, but because you misunderstand the opinion of your friend. The first thing to keep in mind is that misunderstandings are unavoidable. The bad news is misunderstandings can become quarrels. The good news is that with awareness, you can change misunderstandings to understanding and acceptance, which will deepen your friendships.
Why is misunderstanding inevitable? Well, it's has to do with the nature of casual communication. Let's say I'm among a circle of friends and wish to share an idea, and it's my turn to speak. The idea is completely clear in my mind, but to explain it in great detail is somewhat laborious. Besides, if my explanation is too long-winded, I'm apt to be cut off by a friend who is eager to jump into the discussion. So, to make my task less laborious and reduce the likelihood of being cut off in mid-sentence, what do I do? I abbreviate, shorten, and clip my ideas to get them out faster and easier. However, by reducing the details of my point, I unwittingly introduce vagueness and ambiguity. This lack of clarity leads to confusion and misunderstanding.
Even after verifying and clarifying, you may still disagree with your friend. Such disagreements are unavoidable because of our differences. As long as we remember that it is our differences that provide learning experiences and variety to life, we will be able to disagree without becoming disagreeable. Learn to become tolerant. Tolerance is expansive. It is about growth and enjoyment.
If you are married, your most important friend is your spouse. Why not repeat to your spouse the words of 'Dr. Love' (Leo Buscaglia, 1924 ~ 1998), "A single rose can be my garden. a single friend, my world." Then add, "YOU are my friend and my world." And prove it by mastering the art of compassionate communication: the art of listening, learning, and being sensitive and supportive. Eliminate quarrels at home. But should one occur when your guard is down, use it to deepen your relationship by quickly apologizing and making up.
This is something I need and hope to be able to fulfill into my life daily.
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