What is Stress? ) Stress defies a single comprehensive definition. It is a universal syndrome comprised of various characteristics and symptoms affecting different human beings differently. Therefore stress has been defined variously by various professionals - psychologists, medics, management consultants and others. Whatever the definition, we all have experienced stress, and are possibly experiencing it at this moment. Each one of us therefore intuitively knows what stress is and can define it according to one’s own perspective.
Another definition of stress is physical, mental, and emotional strain or tension. It occurs when we perceive that the response we need to make to our environment or circumstances is beyond us or threatens our well being.
Stress is the body and mind's response to any stressful pressure that disrupts the balance in the mind or body. It occurs when our perceptions of events don't meet our expectations and we don't manage our reaction to the disappointment. As a response, stress expresses itself as resistance, tension, strain or frustration, that throws off our physiological and psychological equilibrium, keeping us out-of-sync and stressed-out
“God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out in order for you to be able to endure it.”
(1 Corinthians 10:13.
Stress initially acts in a subtle manner in our normal working life without threatening our survival. The impact of stress does not manifest itself dramatically. Its intensity is so low that we do not notice it. Usually a person experiences stress when he/she is frustrated or interrupted, more so when he/she encounters new and challenging situations. The amount of stress that a person suffers from depends upon the imagined damage a person thinks a situation can do to them. The sense of threat is seldom physical - in fact, it can be a perceived threat to personal standing in society. Just as the real threat is in life.
Do not fear the challenges of life, but approach them patiently. with faith in God.
He will reward your faith with the power not only to endure, but also to prevail over
hardships. disappointments, trials, and struggles of daily living. Through diligently
striving to live the law of God and with faith in Him, we will not diverted from the eternal course.
No temptation has taken you except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and he will not let YOU be tempted beyond what YOU can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out in order for YOU to be able to endure it.
How we perceive a situation and how we react to it is the basis of our stress. If you focus on the negative in any situation, you can expect high stress levels. However, if you try and see the good in the situation, your stress levels will greatly diminish. (Quote by - Catherine Pulsifer)
The capacity of man himself is only revealed when, under stress and responsibility, he breaks through his educational shell, and he may then be a splendid surprise to himself no less than to this teachers.
If there is no struggle there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom
and yet depreciate agitation Power concedes nothing without demand.
Obstacles are necessary for success because in selling, as in all careers of importance,
victory comes only after many struggles and countless defeats.
Coming together during struggles, becoming stronger in tough times.
The capacity of man himself is only revealed when, under stress and responsibility, he breaks through his educational shell, and he may then be a splendid surprise to himself no less than to this teachers.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Friday, January 1, 2010
Blame Myself, not someone else.
Going through life, obstacles come upon us, bad luck and wrong choices we have to get through.
How many times have I made a wrong decision or in sports I made a error, I traveled,
passed or threw to the wrong person. Many times in my 30 yrs. of sports.
Now looking back, how many of those times I made the mistake. I blamed it on someone else?
Taking responsibility is hard to do.
We'll the answer to that is probably majority of the times through the years.
Yes there were times that is was someone else that assisted me in the mistakes or the errors.
Now how many times around the house I have, misplaced something, spilled or broke or
even burnt something while cooking and blamed it on my Wife or Son?
Now yes, there was definitely times that items were moved from the area I like it in.
And times I have tripped over something that was not picked up that should have been.
But if I would blow my top, and then put the blame on both of them for every time something went wrong, that would be my fault.
It is very easy to be able to put the blame on the other person.
It is tough for me, and every other human to admit or say, " It was my fault or I was wrong"
Any one of us can look back during our school years, and blame my teachers, or parents,
for not learning as much as I needed to, to make it in life.
Or I can look back and say, I could have studied more. I could have asked the teacher or Parents for more help.
Sometimes there are some cases I might have needed some extra help, that I did not receive,
but if I did not feel I understood everything. During my High School years I could have taken extra classes in the summer.
I could dwell in the past, but I am living now. My favorite line is "Tough live with it. "
Why would I want to blame someone else, for my physical condition I might not be pleased with. It is not the fast food's fault, my wife's or my mother's. I did not have to eat as much as
I did. And it would be up to me to exercise the extra weight off.
Overall, being a full grown man, I need to come out and just take the responsibility of all my faults, without blaming others for my short comings.
How many times have I made a wrong decision or in sports I made a error, I traveled,
passed or threw to the wrong person. Many times in my 30 yrs. of sports.
Now looking back, how many of those times I made the mistake. I blamed it on someone else?
Taking responsibility is hard to do.
We'll the answer to that is probably majority of the times through the years.
Yes there were times that is was someone else that assisted me in the mistakes or the errors.
Now how many times around the house I have, misplaced something, spilled or broke or
even burnt something while cooking and blamed it on my Wife or Son?
Now yes, there was definitely times that items were moved from the area I like it in.
And times I have tripped over something that was not picked up that should have been.
But if I would blow my top, and then put the blame on both of them for every time something went wrong, that would be my fault.
It is very easy to be able to put the blame on the other person.
It is tough for me, and every other human to admit or say, " It was my fault or I was wrong"
Any one of us can look back during our school years, and blame my teachers, or parents,
for not learning as much as I needed to, to make it in life.
Or I can look back and say, I could have studied more. I could have asked the teacher or Parents for more help.
Sometimes there are some cases I might have needed some extra help, that I did not receive,
but if I did not feel I understood everything. During my High School years I could have taken extra classes in the summer.
I could dwell in the past, but I am living now. My favorite line is "Tough live with it. "
Why would I want to blame someone else, for my physical condition I might not be pleased with. It is not the fast food's fault, my wife's or my mother's. I did not have to eat as much as
I did. And it would be up to me to exercise the extra weight off.
Overall, being a full grown man, I need to come out and just take the responsibility of all my faults, without blaming others for my short comings.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
5 marks of a pure heart
Since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water (Hebrews 10:21-22). To the pure all things are pure (Titus 1:15).
I shall next show you the signs of a pure heart.
1) A sincere heart is a pure heart: ‘In whose spirit there is no guile’ (Psalm 32:2). There are four characters of a sincere-hearted Christian.
(a) A sincere heart serves God with the whole heart.
(b) A sincere heart is willing to come under a trial. ‘Search me, O God, and try me’ (Psalm 139: 23).
(c) a man of sincere heart dares not act in the least against his conscience.
(d) a sincere heart is a suspicious heart. The hypocrite suspects others and has charitable thoughts of himself. The sincere Christian has charitable thoughts of others and suspects himself.
2) A pure heart breathes after purity. A gracious soul is so in love with purity that he prizes a pure heart above all blessings.
(a) Above riches.
(b) Above gifts.
3) A pure heart abhors all sin. A man may forbear and forsake sin, yet not have a pure heart.
(a) He may forbear sin as one may hold his breath while he dives under water, and then take breath again.
(b) He may forbear sin for fear of the penalty.
(c) He may forbear sin out of a design. He has a plot in hand and his sin might spoil his plot.
4) Again, a man may forsake sin yet not have a pure heart. Sin may be forsaken upon wrong principles.
(a) From morality: moral arguments may suppress sin.
(b) From policy: a man may forsake sin, not
I shall next show you the signs of a pure heart.
1) A sincere heart is a pure heart: ‘In whose spirit there is no guile’ (Psalm 32:2). There are four characters of a sincere-hearted Christian.
(a) A sincere heart serves God with the whole heart.
(b) A sincere heart is willing to come under a trial. ‘Search me, O God, and try me’ (Psalm 139: 23).
(c) a man of sincere heart dares not act in the least against his conscience.
(d) a sincere heart is a suspicious heart. The hypocrite suspects others and has charitable thoughts of himself. The sincere Christian has charitable thoughts of others and suspects himself.
2) A pure heart breathes after purity. A gracious soul is so in love with purity that he prizes a pure heart above all blessings.
(a) Above riches.
(b) Above gifts.
3) A pure heart abhors all sin. A man may forbear and forsake sin, yet not have a pure heart.
(a) He may forbear sin as one may hold his breath while he dives under water, and then take breath again.
(b) He may forbear sin for fear of the penalty.
(c) He may forbear sin out of a design. He has a plot in hand and his sin might spoil his plot.
4) Again, a man may forsake sin yet not have a pure heart. Sin may be forsaken upon wrong principles.
(a) From morality: moral arguments may suppress sin.
(b) From policy: a man may forsake sin, not
Monday, December 28, 2009
A thought of having Alzheimer’s ?
This might sound astounding, but it could be a interesting way to go.
Here's my thought, -
I had a Grandfather pass away with this disease.
And I was around to see his life continue to increase with this disease, from the beginning until his passing.
But studying this problem developed in his life,
I saw ones feel sorry for him.
Maybe ones in the Family or his friends, had a little
more trouble coping with this situation he was living in.
And watching him as the disease continued to take over his life,
in the late years he seemed happy still.
I'm sure at the beginning as this disease started developing he struggled,
while it increased until it was in full control of his life he was happy.
Every time I was around him he seemed happy.
In most cases of ones with this illness, they might become violent.
I'm thankful this was not his problem.
But my thought was even during this duration, he was oblivious to all negativism of the problems around him in this world.
This will take place, " this will be my goal to see this fulfilled."
That ones would have this peace in their lives, as it was in my Grandfather's life until the end.
Our troubles and problems of life that is upon us, our lives will have a chance to live in peace.with the power of a higher source.
I know this sounds like it is impossible, but with faith one day it will be possible. This will be the aspect of this world.
Here's my thought, -
I had a Grandfather pass away with this disease.
And I was around to see his life continue to increase with this disease, from the beginning until his passing.
But studying this problem developed in his life,
I saw ones feel sorry for him.
Maybe ones in the Family or his friends, had a little
more trouble coping with this situation he was living in.
And watching him as the disease continued to take over his life,
in the late years he seemed happy still.
I'm sure at the beginning as this disease started developing he struggled,
while it increased until it was in full control of his life he was happy.
Every time I was around him he seemed happy.
In most cases of ones with this illness, they might become violent.
I'm thankful this was not his problem.
But my thought was even during this duration, he was oblivious to all negativism of the problems around him in this world.
This will take place, " this will be my goal to see this fulfilled."
That ones would have this peace in their lives, as it was in my Grandfather's life until the end.
Our troubles and problems of life that is upon us, our lives will have a chance to live in peace.with the power of a higher source.
I know this sounds like it is impossible, but with faith one day it will be possible. This will be the aspect of this world.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Learning from Mistakes
Mistakes can and will create harmful wounds.
Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.
Love will help all wounds of life. Healing deep wounds or cuts, cannot heal without treatment with an antidote and bandage.
Bandage= A strip of material such as gauze used to protect. Protection is an act of love and concern for others,
Love is like a antiseptic- ( (antiseptic, agent that kills or inhibits the growth) microorganisms on the surfaces of the body\ inhibits = to prohibit from doing something
And antiseptic is a antidote = A remedy or other agent used to neutralize or counteract the effects of a poison or infection.
Without antiseptic and a bandage open sores will bring on bacteria.
A key function of bacteria in the ecosystem is in decomposition of living matter. ecosystem = components of an environment of microorganisms.
microorganisms = A minute microorganism or germ can produce disease.
A person that will help someone that is hurt or wounded, has to have a heart of concern.
A concern shows someone that he has respect of his life and well being
for others.
In other words he is showing mercy for ones.
respect = the condition of being esteemed or honored
love = affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
mercy = a disposition to show kindness
And showing these actions upon others you are honoring other lives.
HONOR - High respect, as that shown for special merit; esteem:
Definition: That which rightfully attracts esteem, respect, or consideration
Virtually nothing comes out right the first time. Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. The only time you don't want to fail is the last time you try something.... One fails forward toward success.
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. The greatest mistake you can make in life,
is to be continually fearing you will make one.
Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.
Love will help all wounds of life. Healing deep wounds or cuts, cannot heal without treatment with an antidote and bandage.
Bandage= A strip of material such as gauze used to protect. Protection is an act of love and concern for others,
Love is like a antiseptic- ( (antiseptic, agent that kills or inhibits the growth) microorganisms on the surfaces of the body\ inhibits = to prohibit from doing something
And antiseptic is a antidote = A remedy or other agent used to neutralize or counteract the effects of a poison or infection.
Without antiseptic and a bandage open sores will bring on bacteria.
A key function of bacteria in the ecosystem is in decomposition of living matter. ecosystem = components of an environment of microorganisms.
microorganisms = A minute microorganism or germ can produce disease.
A person that will help someone that is hurt or wounded, has to have a heart of concern.
A concern shows someone that he has respect of his life and well being
for others.
In other words he is showing mercy for ones.
respect = the condition of being esteemed or honored
love = affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
mercy = a disposition to show kindness
And showing these actions upon others you are honoring other lives.
HONOR - High respect, as that shown for special merit; esteem:
Definition: That which rightfully attracts esteem, respect, or consideration
Virtually nothing comes out right the first time. Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. The only time you don't want to fail is the last time you try something.... One fails forward toward success.
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. The greatest mistake you can make in life,
is to be continually fearing you will make one.
Friday, December 25, 2009
Applying Respect
Respect is earned. Being respectful needs to be re-enforced by showing our children they must treat others the way they wish to be treated.
You show respect in order to get respect; meaning that it really does not matter how people treat you, it's how you treat the people that do wrong to you. Basically what goes around comes around and nobody wants to die the life they live. So no matter what happens in life keep a clean slate for your own self respect and you will surely be rewarded for it. I know it's not fair, but nothing in life is, except our choices. They are free and help make a great difference in this old world.
A man's real life is that accorded to him in the thoughts of other men by reason of respect or natural love.
Seeing our own inner lack of respect shows us the path toward cultivating it, toward intentionally adopting a genuinely respectful attitude. And respect, coupled with the rest of our spiritual practice, leads to humility and love. Ultimately we may recognize the one quality worthy of unlimited respect, both in ourselves and others: the spark of Divinity.
If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are.
" Harry S. Truman" : ( Quotes on Respect )
We must build a new world, a far better world - one in which the eternal dignity of man is respected.
…Always maintain a respectful attitude toward others, appreciating the vulnerability they may feel about being touched. Listen to what they tell you, verbally and non-verbally. Be sensitive to their feedback to your touch. Remember that a respectful attitude requires that you come from a place that is compassionate and non-judgmental. A respectful attitude contributes to a safe and healing atmosphere for the client…
You show respect in order to get respect; meaning that it really does not matter how people treat you, it's how you treat the people that do wrong to you. Basically what goes around comes around and nobody wants to die the life they live. So no matter what happens in life keep a clean slate for your own self respect and you will surely be rewarded for it. I know it's not fair, but nothing in life is, except our choices. They are free and help make a great difference in this old world.
A man's real life is that accorded to him in the thoughts of other men by reason of respect or natural love.
Seeing our own inner lack of respect shows us the path toward cultivating it, toward intentionally adopting a genuinely respectful attitude. And respect, coupled with the rest of our spiritual practice, leads to humility and love. Ultimately we may recognize the one quality worthy of unlimited respect, both in ourselves and others: the spark of Divinity.
If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are.
" Harry S. Truman" : ( Quotes on Respect )
We must build a new world, a far better world - one in which the eternal dignity of man is respected.
…Always maintain a respectful attitude toward others, appreciating the vulnerability they may feel about being touched. Listen to what they tell you, verbally and non-verbally. Be sensitive to their feedback to your touch. Remember that a respectful attitude requires that you come from a place that is compassionate and non-judgmental. A respectful attitude contributes to a safe and healing atmosphere for the client…
Open communication will daily bring peace in our lives.
Life is very busy for families these days. In most cases, one or both parents work full time; some may even have more than one job; children often have many different activities within a week plus a heavy load of homework. Weekends are frequently a flurry of activity with parents rushing children to sports or special classes, running errands, and/or attending to household chores. With so much going on, parents and children may see very little of each other, especially if parents leave the house before children wake up or come home after their bedtime. Communication between family members and respect for each other's needs, property and time commitments can be adversely affected; relationships between family members can also suffer, creating a divide. If you find yourself in this scenario, there are ways to improve communication and respect between family members and to build a more unified family group.
We have to make time to communicate. Family communication encourages family bonds… family bonds boost the desire for and frequency of family gatherings… and family gatherings provide an even greater opportunity (and need) for family communication. It’s a cyclical effect. One leads to, supports, and strengthens the other
Open and honest communication creates an atmosphere that allows family members to express their differences as well as love and admiration for one another. It is through communication that family members are able to resolve the unavoidable problems that arise in all families.
Communication is the single greatest factor affecting a person’s relationships with others. It is the key to accomplishing individual and family goals. Positive communication can be a useful tool in drawing a family together and helping them learn to support, rather than harm one another. Communicating with our families is an ongoing challenge.
Some families are naturally good at communicating, however, many families would like to work at improving their skills. The way we communicate (or don’t communicate) is often taught in the home.
Take a moment to think about how the family you grew up in communicated with each other. Was it positive and effective? Think about how you would like to teach your children to communicate.
Remember, they will learn communication skills and communication styles from you.
Acceptance is a key ingredient in family communication. You may not agree with other family members, but it is essential that you show your respect by listening and speaking about ideas, feelings, and concerns. Acknowledge your differences and allow family members and friends to have differences of opinions.
We have to make time to communicate. Family communication encourages family bonds… family bonds boost the desire for and frequency of family gatherings… and family gatherings provide an even greater opportunity (and need) for family communication. It’s a cyclical effect. One leads to, supports, and strengthens the other
Open and honest communication creates an atmosphere that allows family members to express their differences as well as love and admiration for one another. It is through communication that family members are able to resolve the unavoidable problems that arise in all families.
Communication is the single greatest factor affecting a person’s relationships with others. It is the key to accomplishing individual and family goals. Positive communication can be a useful tool in drawing a family together and helping them learn to support, rather than harm one another. Communicating with our families is an ongoing challenge.
Some families are naturally good at communicating, however, many families would like to work at improving their skills. The way we communicate (or don’t communicate) is often taught in the home.
Take a moment to think about how the family you grew up in communicated with each other. Was it positive and effective? Think about how you would like to teach your children to communicate.
Remember, they will learn communication skills and communication styles from you.
Acceptance is a key ingredient in family communication. You may not agree with other family members, but it is essential that you show your respect by listening and speaking about ideas, feelings, and concerns. Acknowledge your differences and allow family members and friends to have differences of opinions.
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