Of course it’s very hard to forgive others when we are hurt; however, we must understand that we inherently possess a wild and evil conscience that causes craziness. Therefore, we must forgive everyone since those who attack us are being dominated by their wild conscience. They are not being human because their conscience is dysfunctional.
With this basic truth in mind, you can follow these 5 difficult steps and learn how to forgive your enemies. I’m not telling you that they are easy because this is real medicine. However, in the end they are not that difficult. And, after your first experiences, you’ll automatically be able to forgive your enemies.
1)Eliminate your anger and hate, transforming them into sadness because you were a victim of somebody else’s evil.
You must not hate monsters because it is not their fault for being that way. Unfortunately, human nature is very violent and the human being can control his behaviour and be balanced only by passing through psychotherapy. This is a fact that our society has to understand, so that our population may be cured some day.
Look at your enemy as if you were looking at a very piteous creature and have pity on him because he is so mentally ill.
2)Think that you were attacked by your enemy due to his non controlable nature, nothing else.
Stop thinking about what happened, what he did or did not do, etc., and focus on the real reason that the enemy’s behaviour was so terrible—the momentary or progressive loss of conscience. It doesn’t matter which was the scenario and the play.
You must see the real purpose of the actions and their real motive, because your enemy is a slave of his or her primitive conscience, since it dominates the conscience. He cannot control his behaviour; his actions can only be harmful.
3)Cultivate pity towards your enemy.
Regard your enemy as you regard a schizophrenic who lives locked in an asylum because the enemy has no control over his or her behaviour.
Have pity on those who are dominated by their evil side because they only suffer and they can only live in despair.
4) You must love your enemies and care about their health and suffering because they are victims of their wild side and they have no notion of what they do, even though they appear that they do everything with an evil purpose, which they know very well. This evil purpose doesn’t belong to the human conscience, but to the primitive side.
5)Forget your enemy now that you understood everything and you don’t feel hatred. Take care of other matters of your life and remain occupied with them.
Step 2
Your enemies will feel ridiculous for having attacked you since you didn’t do anything against them, because you are not like them; you are different. You are not crazy, you don’t do absurd things. You put an end to violence with your peaceful and wise attitude.
You give also an opportunity to your enemies to comprehend that instead of hating you, since you didn’t take revenge, they shall be grateful because you didn’t do any of the several things you could have done against them to take your revenge.
You’ll keep your peace of mind and they’ll understand that you are superior.
They will be punished for their actions through the consequences of their mistakes, while you’ll be fine, living your life without any problem.
