A good character of heart is a great writing on a tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you and forget the writings that will wither away. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.

Good memories should be desired to be recalled, not searching how to delete.

Everyone enjoys recapturing past good memories, 

pay attention every minute that goes by is considered past.  

Am I there to Help ones?

Open your eyes look within your heart. are you perplexed, satisfied or happy with your walk in life.

Everyone before you has been an example, what to do and what not to do.

Learning by my mistakes is a must, learning by others, is an assistance.

Being an example will bring peace of mind.

Is my progression of life being lead by my mind of selfishness, or living through a heart of charity and concern?

The best way to display insecurity, is by showing others their shortcomings.

Being there for others,will be a benefit for success. Having mercy will express sincerity towards others.

Healthy life creates Strength

Healthy life creates strength

If you look back at your friends and your friendships have become stronger, then your original identity of a friend is unique and genuine.
If I would look back and recall friends I no longer see and are still around, could that tell me that I have changed from my true feelings of what a friend is all about.The character of a friend will not alter if I try to continue that special relationship to be there for them, instead of the feeling they should be there for me.
That idea will only be a life led by selfishness, and in turn leads to disconnection for future good memories.
Any affiliations or close relationships will never struggle, if the feeling is to put the other first. The authentic bond will never depart but become more secure and solid. There are times reconciliation is a need.
Perspectives will never change as long as you continue to look for greater expectations for each other.
That could be considered as 20 20 vision of friendships for a lifetime of enjoyment.That idea will only be a life led by selfishness, and in turn leads to disconnection for future good memories.Any affiliations or close relationships will never struggle, if the feeling is to put the other first. The authentic bond will never depart but become more secure and solid. There are times reconciliation is a need.Perspectives will never change as long as you continue to look for greater expectations for each other.That could be considered as 20 20 vision of friendships for a lifetime of enjoyment.That idea will only be a life led by selfishness, and in turn leads to disconnection for future good memories.Any affiliations or close relationships will never struggle, if the feeling is to put the other first. The authentic bond will never depart but become more secure and solid. There are times reconciliation is a need.Perspectives will never change as long as you continue to look for greater expectations for each other.That could be considered as 20 20 vision of friendships for a lifetime of enjoyment.


A creative individual is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat or destroy others. The right heart towards others is the best way to reach your expectations.

Mind of man

When man leads by his decision the destination is unknown, but following the path that Christ left for man will lead us to God's plan in the garden.

Guidance by the carnal mind and heart, will be a life directed without charity and love.

As man lives by the fruits of the spirit, achieving God's plan for mankind will have less difficulties.

1st reason for your Friendship

One thing about true friends try to understand without blaming first.

Never forget the reason you became friends, if that is always put first, concern will never be lost. Finding the first spark that enlightened being a friend, will help the flame to never die out.

Forgiving does not always mean forgetting the past, it helps to remember while driving in a new city and making a wrong turn, remembering where the wrong turn was made, it will help take you back where you once where. Just remember not to take that wrong turn again.

 My first thought "what did I do or say wrong?"

One good thing about the older way of getting around by a map, while driving with a map having a friend with you will help guide to the next destination.

Now with a GPS if you miss programmed it and lose your directions, having a friend is a greater directional finder. 

Another thing about true friends try to understand without blaming first.

Never forget the reason you became friends, if that is always put first, concern will never be lost. Finding the first spark that enlightened being a friend, will help the flame to never die out.

Forgiving does not always mean forgetting the past, it helps to remember while driving in a new city and making a wrong turn, remembering where the wrong turn was made, it will help take you back where you once where. Just remember not to take that wrong turn again.

A close Friend

A true friend is someone who is there for you, even when they wold rather be somewhere else.

Another way to tell they would help search and find and assist to fix the problem, instead of saying you are the problem.friends are to help discuss, and there to listen.
Old problems and troubles are usually like a shadow, as you walk out of the darkness and towards the sunlight of your heart, the shadow will be behind you/
Looking back at the darkness will not help guide you to a bright road ahead.
I look around and still see ones that were there for me when I was distressed and lost, if it had bot been for all my family and friends, I would have not made it many times.
Then I found my dearest and best friend and really never be where I at today without her love and loyalty being by my side.
But it took the grace of the Friend to all mankind if ones let him to be. God will always be there for you when in need.
It always takes two to be able to stay friends, it never happens just by one individual, any relationship is created by the trust of the other one to. 
Your real friend will be there, if you never turn your back upon them first.

Good Memories

A friendship will never be lost, times just pushed aside.

Good memories will never be forgotten even if you try.

Let the more favorable past events, conquer the tough roads that was a challenge.

A right heart will build bridges where the contestable past was rugged and discordant.

Times I have cut myself at work, the first thing I hold it tight with the other hand on it to help slow down the bleeding. Then applying styptic, a bandage is placed upon it.

After wrapping it, if I consistently take off the dressing the bleeding continues.

The cut will not be infected if I keep pulling off the covering.

Never forgetting ones

There comes a time when ones will have to leave everything behind and start something new, but never forget the people who stood by their side, especially the ones who never gave up on them.

If it was not for all those by my side, I would have not had a life of success.

From my family to my friends and oversight from God, my life has been good.

Even with my health setbacks, from my youth beginning of my epilepsy unto now, life would have been very difficult without my wife, friends and all my family that have been there for me.

Majority of the ones reading this, has had knowledge of this situation I once had.

After brain surgery, and help of medicine and prayers, they are under control.

Efforts to turn your back on any one who may need your assistance, there might be a time where they will be the only one there for you.

Good memories will always be there, try not to push them away. Your mental hard drive will always store those times, you can reformat your life, but never try to delete the good times.

God never holds on to your past, but is always there when you need him.

The rest of these thoughts are in your decisions ahead.

It is very hard to try to describe a life of friendships on this particular site.

So I have been very intrigued with many thoughts in past few years until even today.

On my blog I have been able to bring forth a few thoughts, but they have been to scattered.

So with the blog and a continuous additions of more in my mind and heart, of what is a heart of love and charity is really about.

Who knows these writings may be just a prelude for more chapters to come.

Majority of you at one time or another has observed from family, friends from church, school and sport events when we played together, the various episodes that may have taken place.

That is why this blog of thoughts have been shared.

Additional thoughts are being added, as thoughts are put consistently on written form.

Happy Freedom we have

Happy 4th.

Just a thought”

This day is always a wonderful holiday.

Do I really reflect on the hardship and fear that the early Americans must have lived through day after day? Do we truly understand the hopes and dreams that lay secretly hidden away in the hearts of the people back then?

Am I thankful for the past leaders and soldiers that help create this nation of freedom, or the military lives that are trying to maintain this freedom today, I SHOULD BE, “THANK YOU”

And as our pledge of allegiance” we are still to be able to be blessed under God”

This day besides the felling for our nation, this day can be recognized for a day to start having a deliverance of troubles in my mind and heart. To keep minds in a confused state on a daily basis.

I can start by looking and seeing what may have caused this emotion of distress of my mind and heart.

Let me look at some beginnings and solutions to this hardship on myself and to others.

Freedom of mind and heart can create a life ones dream about. By looking and recalling how my life was consolidated when I may have confined ones heart, to have future objectives to achieve and prosper.

attitude or feelings can begin these burdens in life, by the way I have treated other individuals around me.

The way I can be for me to start do I have feelings towards my family, friends or myself, that can be turned around from one action of heart, by asking or accepting forgiveness.

Do I hold a grudge or keep someone in bondage due to my attitude of heart? Having pity upon yourself Is very easy, I have been through it many times in my walk of life. All that will due is to build up an anger inside that is tough to live with. All it will usually bring is tension with family and friends that may be reaching to you for comfort and compassion.

Do I realize what I may be doing to another person by holding on to these feelings of bitterness and judgment that I may have or may not caused or promoted, or past that that cannot be reconciled by myself or others that are still feeling trapped. Time disturbance of mind, can be like a weed growing up from-underneath us. Before it grows to big, you may find it difficult to pull it out due to the strength and depth, the beginning stage would to spray a substance recommended to take care or and removed and kill It inside the ground, then pull I out.

By living in a society that the thought is, I have a right to express a judgmental call, to give my opinion of controversy mind set or different beliefs. It is sad that those perceptions, will break up a developed loyalty of heart.

Having the ability to start this day with a new clean state and outlook will help to create better relations, with friends and family and God is the best independence anyone can have.

Only you can create the pace and goals of the rest of this life of determination and self-sufficiency, by the first effort that is brought out forth from the heart and mind.

One more direction is to have a heart to help others, you have and understanding of, or have know knowledge of.

Expression of a friendship towards an empty heart that may be searching to fill a desolate heart and soul.

Just by reaching out to talk, may be all they will need to lift them up. A thought of concern towards them.

The one friend that is always by our side, if we just call upon him, Christ our mediator to God our Friend.

The choice of friends you make, do not be short-changed b choosing personality over character.The good choices that have been changed through the years may have had rough times, but changes of heart and mind can be made to continue the path that it was first heading.And if you think how did I think of them as a friend, just remember there must have been good times together that you both considered friendship first, because good memories were made before the rough times entered.Last week I came out of the shop and found I had a tire going flat. So I took it down to have a friend look at it, and he found a nail in it. So all he did was removed the nail and patched it up. The tire has had no trouble after the nail was removed and the patch was made.I did not have to purchase a new tire, due to being able to look and find the problem and fix with a little search and work and friendship.Only you can make or change the rest of the story.

Putting others First.

How many times have I started a thought by saying “I wish things would have went a different way”- “ I wish I would have not answered that way”
“ Why do they think that way about me”- “ I should have not purchased that item”
What is the common denominator within each of these reflections of mind?
They started by saying “ I “.
Will future discoveries, conclusions, or reconciliation’s, start with myself, and not waiting for someone else.
Most desired conclusions will happen If I will put the others first, or have a heart of forgiveness and not judgment and an open mind.
It may help me to put myself in the others shoes before a denouement.

True Friends

Have you ever wondered what the real essence of the saying "A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed" is? People talk about the true value of friendship actually without knowing what it stands for. True friendship is the one, in which the individuals do not have to maintain formalities with each other. Sharing true friendship is the situation, when the person you are talking about is counted as one among your family members, when the relation you share with him/her reaches a stage that even if you don't correspond for sometime, your friendship remains unscathed. Best friends need not meet up often to make sure that the friendship remains constant.

The trust between best friends is such that if one friend falls in trouble, the other will not think twice to help. If the bond between two friends is strong, true friends can endure even long distances. For them, geographical separation is just a part of life. It would not affect their friendship. They make it a point to stay in touch, even in the verge of being exhausted due to the drudgery of everyday life. True friendship never fades away. In fact, it grows better with time. True friendship thrives on trust, inspiration and comfort. Best friends come to know, when the other person is in trouble, merely by listening to their "Hello" over the phone. The can even understand each other's silence.

True friends do not desert each other when one is facing trouble. They would face it together and support each other, even if it is against the interests of the other person. Best friends do not analyze each other; they do not have to do so. They accept each other with their positive and negative qualities. Nothing is hidden between true friends. They know each other's strengths as well as weaknesses. One would not overpower the other. They would respect each other's individuality. In fact, they would understand the similarities and respect the differences. Best friends do not stand any outsider commenting or criticizing their friendship and they can put up a very firm resistance, if anyone does so.

True friends are not opportunists. They do not help, because they have something to gain out of it. True friendship is marked by selflessness. Best friends support even each other, even if the whole world opposes them. It is not easy getting true friends for the lifetime. If you have even one true friend, consider yourself blessed. Remember, all best friends are friends, but not all friends can be best friends. In this world of cynics and back stabbers, there are still some people who are worth being friends with. They have to be recognized and respected for being best friends, for the lifetime.

Memories being apart

Friendships with good memories will not be lost even with distances apart.

Good times together will not be forgotten, when you keep the rough times together from entering your heart
So the best way to have good recollections is to create them when the opportunities are made available.

Choice of Friends

When you choose your friends, do not be short-changed by choosing personality over character.
I can short-change my friends by a wrong attitude or thoughts.
Ones that try to maintian friendships through rough times, and when you look to your friends to see how close they are, I will have to see if I have moved too far to be close to help them if they need help in tough periods of life.
Occasionally when ones long or desire to be nearer, what will help them to draw nearer will be by you to reach out first then they will be alongside you.

Begining thoughts on Love

God is Love, and is very different from human love. God's love is unequivocal, and it's not based on feelings or emotions. He does not love us because we're lovable or because we make Him feel good; He loves us because He is love. He created us to have aloving relationship with Him, and He sacrificed His own Son (who also willingly died for us) to restore that relationship.

Original Love is the first love felt by every soul upon creation. It is the pure love of God instilled in each soul. Before anything else each soul began with Original Love.

Authentic Love is the juice, the driver, the force and the energy; that is what we come with and what we leave with. In the middle of the coming and going, it is hard to detect or believe in love. The writings are the reminder to my soul that there is love, all the time and everywhere.